I Do Believe In Romance…I Do! I Do!
Tough to do sometimes in this day and age. Tiger. Jesse. And now, David Boreanaz, who, I admit, I had a bit of a soft spot for. (I don’t now!) All this infidelity in the news gets me down sometimes. What happened to marriage vows? What’s the point of even being married if you aren’t going to honor them? Is romance, commitment, real love, dead?
(It ticks me off, when the people in these situations claim to love their wives. Um…not more than you love yourself. Anyway…moving on.)
It’s not dead. I believe in romance. I believe in real, lasting love. I don’t believe it’s always easy, but I believe it exists.
It’s there. I saw it just a few days ago when I watched an elderly couple make their own dance floor at a restaurant we were in last week, because their song was on. No one else was dancing, but they did, and you could see in how they held each other, how they looked at each other, how much love was between them.
It’s when my husband tells me I’m beautiful every day, (and he does) even when I’m barefoot, nine months pregnant and in the kitchen, or when I’m still carrying around 20lbs of baby weight after having the baby, or if I’m wearing his sweats. It’s when he offers to change one of the kids’s diapers for me so I don’t have to do it.
It’s in the small things. In a couple’s commitment to each other. Even with all of the crud in the news, I still believe in it. And that’s why I write about it. Yes, in my books, love and romance come with some grand gestures. There are designer gowns and private islands, but I also like to add those small moments. Like when a couple really tries to understand each other, even though they come from different places, different perspectives. Or when they have one of those universal man/woman arguments we all have, but they’re really trying to communicate, even if it’s hard.
Romance novels have, many a times, been accused of giving women an unrealistic notion of romance (first of all, thanks for giving us women folks’ intelligence so much credit…and as a counter argument, I say action movies give men an unrealistic expectation of experiencing a car chase) but I don’t believe that’s true. Sure, most of us won’t get swept off of our feet by a Mediterranean billionaire (but it COULD happen…) but we can at least agree on this:
Romance novels show two people who overcome their differences, and usually have to change their expectations, to find love. They show commitment, they show passion, they show love. I don’t think that’s unrealistic at all.
In fact, I think it’s darn reasonable.
So here’s to love. Fidelity. Romance. Passion. I believe it’s possible to have those things. The Tigers of the world won’t change my mind about that. The real issue is, he’s just not hero material. And there are plenty of men out there (and women!) who are. They just won’t make headline news for staying faithful and loving for the last 35 years. But they exist. And so does romance.
Clap your hands if you believe!
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Hear, hear! I’m with you sister! I’m an incurable optimist but after 11yrs of marriage can speak from experience. Decent, loving, monogamous men DO exist and as women we need to EXPECT it from them.
That’s absolutely right!
Too right!! What a BRILLIANT post! Probably the most beautiful thing I’ve read it a very long time. Makes me want to call my hubby up and just tell him that I love him. Hey… that’s what I’ll do!
Back later 🙂
Aww…thanks, Rach. And I’m so glad you’re calling your hubby…I’m going to the next room to give mine a kiss!
Your hubby sounds awesome, Maisey. And I absolutely agree. Sing it, sister! ;D
clapping mine!
not Boreanaz too 🙁 i love him – not more than my husband though hehehe. rats, oh well.
clapping for romance!
Cari, my hubby is awesome. 🙂 That’s the man himself in the picture.
I know, Kerrin, I was really bummed about that. And you know, he says he and his wife are trying to fix the damage he cause, and I hope they can for the sake of their kids. But don’t even get me started on how she had his kids and then he went and thought with his…grrrr…makes me mad.
But yes, let’s clap for romance!
Beautiful picture, Maisey. I too, believe in love. 21 years married this year, and 28 years living with the same man. We moved in together when I was 20. Can’t imagine living without him!
Beautiful post, Maisey! Let’s hear it for love!!!!
Didn’t know about Boreanaz. Sad. I too had a soft spot for him.
Lovely post Maisey! And yeah, three cheers for romance! Dr Jax brings me coffee in bed every morning without fail. And he can fix my WIPs when I have a problem. The man is a god, I tell you.
Gorgeous photo Maisey, and gorgeous post too.
Love your come back about men and car chases, I’ll remember that one. :o)
Clapping cause I believe.
Sally, that’s wonderful. What a sweet story. 😉
Yes, Maya, let’s!
I know it, Jackie, it’s terribly sad. Brand new news and all. Made me grumpy. But go, Dr Jax! Coffee in bed every morning?? I hope you return the favor. Only something other than coffee… 😀
Joanne, thanks so much! Action movies also give men unrealistic expectations of rescuing and getting the girl who’s hotter and 20yrs younger than they are. 😀
Hea, hear! Maisey. Well said
Interesting – we’ve been blogging on much the same topic today. What’s that they say about Great Minds. Though I’m speaking from the perspective of those 35 years together (and then a few more!) I find it interesting that a LOT of romance writers I know have
l-o-n-g marriages too. Hopefully you’ll end up being one of them
Kate
Thank you, Kate! And a very big congrats on 35yrs! I know Haven and I will be a part of the happy stat. 😉 He’s a great man and I count myself as very blessed!
Beautiful pic and gorgeous words too, Maisey.
My mum and dad have been married 38 years this year and still walk down the street hand in hand. Like I said on Twitter the other day (and like Baby said in Dirty Dancing) I’m still looking for a guy as great as my dad 🙂
And you deserve that!! How wonderful that your parents love each other so much.
That photo is utterly gorgous.
Sorry – spelling – should be gorgeous.
Thank you, Suzanne! (it’s an engagement photo from back…nearly five years ago now. *g*)
That’s the coolest shot of you guys. Ya’ll… I miss you being at ACF (goes for your parents and your dad’s lovely voice, too). I will never forget Haven’s “The Perfect 10!”
And *hear, hear* to romance. Yep, it takes work for the long haul and lots of grace and forgiveness too.
I know. I miss people too. 🙁 Haven and my dad are both doing worship at Heritage now. I keep thinking we need to go to Applegate on a Sunday soon though!
i love David Boreanaz in the TV Series bones, he is really a great actor.:-:
David Boreanaz and that girl from Bones would really make a great a couple..“
i like Bones and i also like David Boreanaz~.*
i love Bones and David Boreanaz, he is good looking and i can say that he is talented *;.